Thursday, February 5, 2009

A Few Bad Days!!!!

A few bad days and hopefully the rest will be good! I pray! I am typing this post while I use my foot to bounce Gavin's chair so he will stay happy. Gage is in his room for coloring the sheets on my bed with an orange marker and breaking the lamp in his room. Katlyn and Carter are playing store, but a fight breaks out every 5 min. The boys locked me out of the house this morning. It's been another bad day!

Yesterday, I had to take Katlyn to the dentist in Show Low. Everyone must go, because dad is at work. By the time we got home, I ordered everyone in the bath and in bed by 7:00. Gage was on the top of my "If you weren't cute I would put you in the garbage" list.

Mike worked over the weekend and so I was flying solo every day. Friday was Katlyn's poetry contest and the boys acted like turds. Saturday, Katlyn complained about cleaning her room and bathroom. Surely nobody else has to do those things right? The day ended with the boys getting a trash bag of their toys thrown away because they did not clean them up when I told them too. They both threw enormous fits. Carter cried. Gage told me that he hated me. Yes he did. I cried. In the meantime, Gavin is grumpy because he hasn't had a good nap all day. Sunday wasn't any better and by the time we finally got to church I wanted to cry and scream at the same time. What have I done wrong?

I feel like quite the failure right now. Why are my kids being so frustrating? I find myself yelling at them more than I ever have. I feel like a horrible mom. I see all these moms that have it all together, and I think what the heck? Why can't I be like that? Why can't my 3 year old go one day without getting into serious trouble lately? Why does my 8 year old have such an attitude, and why does my 5 year old not listen to me and do what I tell him to without being asked 10 times?

Any advice would be appreciated. I hope that one day they will read this and say "Wow, poor mom. We were such brats!" I know that I say that a lot when I think back to how naughty and mean I was to my mom. So, maybe this is just paybacks? Beacause you know what they say about that. They are hell, and that's about what this feels like!

19 comments:

John said...

Looks like Mike picked a good weekend to be at work.

Barb said...

Oh Leslie, I have so been there - this too shall pass! I never understood that until just recently! You are such a great mom, it just all seems to hit right at once! I am happy to take your kids anytime you need a break! Hang in there!!

ClayandAmeeHensley said...

I am just glad to read that I am not the only mom that feels this way. I feel for you. It always seems to come on all at once and is overwhelming. If you ever need a sitter I am here. My boys are the same ages as yours and would LOVE to have new friends.. Keep your head up. Your a great mom and a wonderful person

Sheree and Brian Mowers said...

I'm so glad you wrote this post. I thought I was the only one having a hard time with 4! Don't worry, you are perfectly normal. And if you're not normal, don't worry, you're not alone. I'm right there with you! I think every mom is at one point or another, and if their not, they are pretty good liars! Hope I'm making sense?! You're so sweet, hang in there, it's got to get better, right! :)

Melis said...

Oh Leslie, I sympathize with you, and admire you for sticking to your guns! In times like these, it's so easy to just step back and say, "fine don't clean your room and bathroom. Don't pick up your toys and it's OK if you write all over my sheets, no big deal. I give up!". It's so hard, but somehow we always manage to get through. I love that you threw your kids toys out! I've done that several times and I feel like the biggest witch! It's nice to know that I am normal. It's so hard when Dad's not around. Hang in there, you will get into a routine and the kids will too.

Linde said...

I am so sorry but I am dying laughing right now. Even Moms that have it all together have days and kids that act like that. I know how you feel though. You are a great Mom. Hang in there! Hopefully tomorrow you will forget how naughty they were today:)

Angela said...

WHY didn't you drop your kids off at my house while you went to the doctor????? PLEASE do next time I mean it :)
I am having flash backs reading your post. I think our days could relate. I am about two hairs away from enrolling into the "NUT HOUSE" and I don't have 4 kids. So hands down to you. Trying to run our business and be a mom is exhausting. Brett has been working 80 hour weeks and hardly gets a day off. So the whole single mom thing pretty much sucks. Again I only have 2 kids and feel crazy on a daily basis. As far as those "perfect moms" go, I think they are soo over rated. They DON"T have it all together....there's NO way?????

Stoddard Family said...

Leslie, I sat a couple of rows behind you at the poetry contest the other day, and thought "wow, I wish my little girls would sit and be nice like Leslie's little boys". You are a fantastic Mom, I always wonder how you keep it so together.I am sorry you had such a bad time. Come by my house sometime, now I have single paned windows, I am sure you will hear some yelling and screaming.

Layla said...

Oh Leslie, sounds like a typical week at my house. Your kids are so cute and good, and everyone's kids do these things, even if the rest of us don't see it. Mine always seem to act up more when I'm tired or don't have help or time. Sometimes I think I should lock MYSELF up before I beat them. But those kinds of stories are always their favorites to hear later on... you're a great mom Leslie!

Mills Family said...

Oh, Leslie you don't know how comforting it is to me to hear I am not the only one going through that. I have about drove myself crazy lately trying to figure out what I am doing wrong. Kids are kids and dang it...they love to push us as far as they can. BUT we can't help but love them, it just makes me appreciate my mom so much more. Just think...someday we will look back on this, laugh and actually probably miss it. You are doing great...way to stick to your guns:)

Jace and Cadence said...

hey Matt and I were wondering if we had a boy, if it would be ok if we named him Gage? I wanted to ask you first Leslie.

Katlyn Papa said...

If this post and his actions don't scare you! If you don't think that names sometimes determine how children act, you are most welcome to name him Gage.
I'm just kidding really! We do love our Gage. He's sweet most of the time. We don't mind at all!

Jace and Cadence said...

thanx! its ne of our favorites that we both agree on!

Jace and Cadence said...

thanx! its ne of our favorites that we both agree on!

Teresa :) said...

Oh Leslie, I know how you feel. I always think that way but you know what I look at you and think man I wish I had it all together like Leslie Papa! haha Thanks for a post that makes me feel more normal! :)

Laura said...

Keep trying Les and maybe someday you guys can have a perfect family like ours. Dammit Maverik how many times do I have to tell you we don't eat our boogers! Anyways Happy Birthday!!! I'm singing to you right now and it's really good.

Dan and Kirsten Flake said...

Oh Leslie! Quit it. ;) Your kids are some of the sweetest I have seen. I have those days almost everyday. Four children is pretty rough! Hang in there, it really is only but a minute! (Easier said than done, huh?)

Rachel said...

hi Leslie! I didn't know you had a blog! And a new baby, congrats! I'm so out of the loop! Sorry I can't give you any motherhood advice. My mom always told me that I'll get kids who acted as I did, and I'm definitely not looking forward to that. Anyways, just know you are beautiful and loved and no matter how hard it can be you are raising a wonderful family!

Jennifer said...

I think you can find a few posts like this on my blog! Seriously! I have felt this same way often...having a newborn and not getting enough sleep doesn't help make things any better. Luckily...that's temporary...but then that's sad too...they grow up too fast. :{

ANYHOW...

Please call me when you need a break...and I mean it!